I don’t need to tell you how tough breakups can be, as chances are you’ve been through one. One of the problems with a breakup is being alone after spending so much time as part of a couple, especially if you were married for many years or lived with your ex-partner for a large percentage of the time. There are ways to start to heal yourself and learn to love you for who you are as an individual and not as a couple.

Soon you will realise you are just as happy on your own, and remember, you can’t love anyone truly until you learn to love yourself (a bit of an annoying cliché, but I think there’s truth to it).

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Your heart isn’t in it, I know, but you need to try and immerse yourself in ‘fun’, whatever that entails for you. It could be reading, watching your favourite movies, swimming, or going for long walks. For instance, if you are in the Scottsdale area. You might want to explore the Scottsdale Cinema for an enchanting experience. Many people love the enriching movie-viewing experience they get there. Also, it will help you relax and unwind from the breakup stress.

Overwriting the pain with fun and happiness is one of the best ways you can heal that ache you’re probably feeling. Spending time doing what you enjoy, whether you feel like it or not, will have a profound effect on your happiness over time.


For some, the idea of exercise is a very bad one, but for those who enjoy it, it can be the best form of medicine for that broken heart.

Running is always restorative as it calms the mind and allows for moments of clarity. Give it a try and you might just find yourself getting fitter both physically and mentally.

If hard exercise is your idea of hell (like I do), then maybe try out long walks and yoga. The benefits of yoga on the mind and body have been felt for thousands of years and people who practice it swear that it makes them healthier, happier, and calmer.


In my opinion, this is the most important aspect of mending a broken heart and learning to love yourself. Your family are healers, whether you know it or not. Spending time with them, even if it’s just watching TV, will make such a difference.


One more thing that helped me out, was getting back into journaling and visualising what kind of life I wanted to create for myself next.  Clearing your mind and focusing on something that excites you can be a brilliant way of healing.

In the end, you need to find what works for you and just remember: never dwell on the past. The horizon is bright, remember that.

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