10 Questions to ask yourself about Self-Love

Kiran Singh

How much do you truly love yourself — deeply, wholly, authentically, and beyond the superficial, ego-based definition?

The reason this question is fundamental (and perhaps the most important question you can ask) is without knowing the answer, you may live unconsciously from moment to moment. You just go through the motions without being able to awaken to the deeper significance of your choices. You fail to see and feel the energy you are broadcasting out to the world and what you are inviting into your life as a result.

I believe that our life’s mission is to love ourselves — to learn to love what we are. We are here to create what we love, and love what we create.

Your life is about expanding your awareness — expanding your vision of yourself and your life. You continue to expand until you become the greatest possible vision of who you are, and who you wish to be in your incarnated human form.

Without loving yourself, how can you hope to achieve? Nothing will ever truly satisfy you. And then you will live a life of perpetually seeking, searching, yearning …

Without giving love to yourself first, how will you be able to give love to others? Feeding and nourishing yourself will automatically feed and nourish others if you set this as your intention. This creates unimaginable possibilities, allowing creation from a sound foundation.


10 questions you can ask yourself to develop a self-love practice:

  1. Do you love yourself enough to forgive yourself?
  2. Do you love yourself enough to forgive others?
  3. Do you love yourself enough to nourish your body with life-affirming nutrient-rich food (the way nature intended), or do you feed yourself processed non-foods like sugar, white bread, etc.?
  4. Do you love yourself enough to exercise your body, stretch it, build your physical resilience and strength, and continue to improve your body’s conditioning?
  5. Do you love yourself enough to feed your soul with whatever your heart intends?
  6. Do you love yourself enough to live in the moment — to forget the past and not worry so much about the future — to be truly present to the opportunity within each and every moment?
  7. Do you love yourself enough to commit to your decisions — to take action that serves your spirit with all your heart? If you want to truly go somewhere, you’ll only get halfway when only half of your heart is in it.
  8. Do you love yourself enough to consistently expand your mind, by learning new things, and continually growing your expertise about life? With more knowledge about life, you’ll have greater awareness and ability to deal with any event.
  9. Do you love yourself enough to have fun, allow your soul to be joyful, do the things you love doing, to release stress, relax your mind-body-soul, take the time to rejuvenate and re-energise?
  10. Do you love yourself enough to rest sufficiently — to sleep enough?
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Now more than ever, we need to ask ourselves who we want to be in an age of possibility.

We need to examine our foundations — the very fabric of our being — and our position in this world.

Always look within for the answers for which you seek. If you build healthy, well-balanced self-love, self-respect and self-appreciation within, your foundation is in place to build the very same things in your external world.

Loving yourself is the foundation for living a fully self-actualised life.


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6 thoughts on “10 Questions to ask yourself about Self-Love

  1. Oh how I love this entire post! Loving ourself and who we are is so simple, yet we make it hard. I love what you said at the beginning, about creating love and loving what we create. That’s deep! In order to love anyone, we must start by loving ourselves first? definitely saving this post!

    1. I am glad you enjoyed this post MJ. Self-love is important because it helps us to keep our own attitude, our own personal space and it also helps us to know about ourselves.

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